Dan and Michael Raise Someone Else’s Kid: Communal Parenting, Gender Panic, and Imaginary Friends
When is it okay to discipline someone else’s kid? Are gender roles actually “natural,” or are we just swimming in Disney IP? And what do you do when your child’s imaginary friend starts sounding less… imaginary? This week on People Stuff, anthropologists Dan Souleles and Michael Powell take on communal parenting, playground ethics, gender development, TikTok surveillance culture, immigration panic, and the unsettling anthropology of imaginary friends. Drawing on cross-cultural child-rearing, gender theory, and just enough totemism to keep things weird, they offer advice that is empathetic, skeptical, and occasionally alarming. Remember: we’re anthropologists, and we know stuff about people.
When (if ever) should you intervene with someone else’s child?
Why American parenting anxiety looks bizarre cross-culturally
Aka childhood autonomy, Japanese errand culture, and European stroller norms
TikTok detectives and the collapse of “mind your own business”
Gender identity, performativity, and why pink tea parties won’t destroy society
Judith Butler, trans theory, and early childhood gender development
Why you don’t actually control your kids’ socialization
Immigration panic, economic amnesia, and xenophobia with spreadsheets
Imaginary friends, ancestors, tricksters, and why your kid might not be “imagining” anything at all
Anthropology’s most comforting message: this is all extremely normal
That’s it for this week’s People Stuff — the show where two anthropologists try (and sometimes fail) to make sense of people.
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Music by The Endless Bummer
Art by Siobhan Henegan
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